My mother

There is no doubt that all of us that we are growing with full of love and care from our mothers. Nevertheless, we get used for the care from our mothers, haven’t we thought that she will leave us one day suddenly? Even we have done something wrong before, from now, as children of our mothers, we should to start a good communication with her. My mother is actually a targeted person for me.

When I was studying in secondary school, I became much more rebel at that time. I tended to wayward, egocentric, emotional that made my mother worry about me so much. Remember the day, I did not back home last night because I hung out with my friends and stayed at one of my friends eventually. When I backed home, I bet my mother would condemn my willful behavior. Yet, my mother seemed to realize that all teenagers would pass through this rebellion period. Hence, she did not blame me at that moment. Oppositely, she acted patiently and just asked me to sit down and expressed her feeling, how worry she felt at that night. I really felt sorry and apologized to her. Due to her complementary method instead of punishing and blaming to teach me, I seldom had conflicts during my rebellion period. It is undeniable that she did such things is for my own good.

Apart from my mother’s verbal communication, my mother’s non-verbal communication is so effective and efficient to me. When I did something wrong or could not satisfy her, she would habitually use her forefinger to point and stare at me and stare without saying anything. After I saw it, I would naturally stop what I was doing and giving her a smile. But if she is really very angry about something, she would clean all the things quickly and with making much noise. Honestly, she should in no ways be regarded as a good body language emitter. Her body language can reflect her emotion and feeling thoroughly.

Besides, my mother is a good listener for me ever. After I finished my HKCEE, I worked as a waitress in a restaurant during my summer holiday. Unfortunately, I did not work happily at that time, because my manager always blamed me, I would refute him sometimes. I told my mother this happening, she practiced as an active listener who validated my feelings and explore my thought, “I know that you work unhappily and have conflicts with your manager. But working as waitress is not an easy job for all of women. But, let me ask you a question,’ are you really doing well all the time?’ If your answer is ‘yes’, just try to talk to your manager in order to solve this problem. If your manager still does not listen to you and always blame you, you may try to quit and find another job. But it your answer is ‘no’, you should think deeply what’s wrong with you while your manager blame you, you may need to have improvements. Anyway, whatever you decide to do, mother always support you, just tell me your feelings and mother will share will you” I could actually feel the warmth and care from mother. My mother’s words are so helpful and she really gave a great feedback to me and I knew my mother cared of my feelings so much. She tried to help me to solve the problem. Doubtless, she is a best listener for me.